When to approach a Marriage Counsellor?

Relationship Counselling/Marriage counselling is usually considered as a last option for the couple. Although it is recommended to seek for such professional help as earliest possible to avoid the negative consequences. You should approach a marriage counsellor if you are:

• In the early stages when the first trouble
• Feeling unhappy and helpless in the relationship or marriage
• Suffering from a lack of understanding or trust with your partner
• On the edge of break-up.
• Unable to handle distress, or demand a better coping strategy
• Scared of being too honest, starting a fight, or hurting the loved
• Considering that there is no way out of your troubled relationship
• Affected by infidelity, alcohol abuse, drug abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse, sexual abuse or mental health problems
• Not efficiently communicating your needs and desires
• Having issues with your partner in creating a mutual plan to manage the relationship, as well as focusing on children, finance and household chores equivalently.
• Facing difficult times, such as severe health problem, experiencing anxiety, stress or depression
• Afraid of being rude while being honest about your feelings, causing a barrier to talk about them freely with your partner.
• Being unable to adjust to normal life transitions like birth or death of a family
• Constantly arguing, not agreeing over family finances, not spending quality time, and prioritizing work too much.
• Not getting respect in the relationship.
• Quietly suffering and hoping the relationship will survive.
• Constantly begging your partner to change.
• Promising your spouse that you will change (although you don’t want to)
• Afraid of your partner’s temper, so you avoid making him/her angry.
• Avoiding or not expressing your personal feelings honestly, thus putting yourself at a greater risk of becoming emotionally distant.
• Having a dysfunctional behaviour towards each other.
• Being jealous about spouses friends, especially ex’s

It is generally advisable to seek for professional help from a marriage or relationship counsellor if you are going through a bad relationship or marriage. It is suggested to attend the sessions with your partner. If he/she refuses to attend the sessions you can go buy yourself. It may although be a little challenging to make the required changes when only one partner is willing to go for therapy. But you can still understand your behavioural patterns, especially the ones that lead to conflicts and benefit from the counselling sessions.

Dr Nisha Khanna as a Relationship/Marriage Counsellor proffers online, telephonically and face to face Counselling Services. If you are living in Delhi, India or any other part of World, you can approach us through any of these mediums. For further details visit Bye Tense, or call us at +91-9312730331