Seeking for professional help can sometimes be overwhelming. But It is really important to consult a counsellor if things are not going well for you or anyone really close to you.  A Counsellor is a professional who helps you gain a better insight into your problems and come up with a solution that makes you independent in solving your issues. They can help you better accept yourself, accomplish your goals or deal with your unexplained and recurrent bad health. Basically, they are an expert who will provide you with the environment of unconditional positive regard, congruence and empathy. You should seek a counsellor if you are undergoing uncomfortable emotions, unfulfilling communication, negative thoughts such as:

  1. Uncomfortable Emotions 
  • It is quite common to experience a certain amount of stress or anxiety, but when not dealt with in an efficient manner, they start impacting your lifestyle in a negative way.
  • A traumatic event, even from the long past can have a drastic effect on your present and future.
  • Due to negative social experiences feelings such as shame, guilt, low self-worth or lack of confidence can develop over a period of time.
  • Breakups job stress could also have a negative impact on your health, due to lack of better coping mechanism the individual is more likely to feel sad.
  • Having temperamental or personality issues are also quite common towards the manifestation of negative feelings.
  • Even unexpected mood swings take a toll towards emotional discomfort.
  1. Unfulfilling Communication
  • At times arguments or conflicts with a loved one are not resolved. They end up creating distance in the relationship.
  • Loving your partner with the whole heart, but not being able to express can hurt your relationship.
  • There are certain things we are very much uncomfortable sharing to our family or friends, especially when we have done something opposite to their expectations or what may hurt them.
  • Not being able to bear the grieving loss of a loved one can arouse a shattering and isolated response from the individual. Withdrawing from things that used to bring joy can become the usual response.
  • Not being able to communicate with your boss at the office can also pent-up stress-related issues.
  1. Unwanted Thoughts
  • Constantly bearing negative and depressive thoughts can build frustration and tension.
  • An unhealthy coping mechanism or excessive negative self-talk can deteriorate the self-image and can cause serious issues with the individual to feel less motivated to do anything.
  • Striving too much for perfection also results in dissatisfaction with self, thus criticizing oneself too much for the mistakes.
  • Having harmful thoughts of hurting yourself or others.
  • Confusion in decision making, or trying to understand the purpose of your life.

If you are suffering from any of these feelings it is highly advisable to seek professional help from a Counsellor and understand the consequences and learn better skills in how to deal with them. It would be better to talk to the Counsellor as soon as possible without delaying and letting the issues become more serious.

Dr Nisha Khanna as a Relationship/Marriage Counsellor proffers online, telephonically and face to face Counselling Services. If you are living in Delhi, India or any other part of World, you can approach us through any of these mediums. For further details visit Bye Tense, or call us at +91-9312730331