This case study is about Kartik and Deepti who are in disturbed marriages (with their spouses) in their respective lives and fell into love 2 years ago. They came to us as they were facing some problems in this present (extra-martial) relationship. Deepti is a very pretty and charming girl and belongs to high Socio-economic strata. Kartik is quite handsome and has a flourishing career.
They disclosed us during the first Couple Counselling Session that both met each other on the social networking site. Kartik is married to Preeti and Deepti is married to Manish. In the initial phase of their relationship, everything was going good even they thought of getting separated from their partners and will settle down together as a couple in future, but due to their recent frequent fights, Kartik dropped the idea of getting separated from his wife and living life with Deepti. After listening, all this, we suggested them to take Individual Counselling Sessions.
During the Individual Counselling Session Kartik told us that he had a love marriage with Preeti. Both the families’ were dead against it as he belongs to the Gujjar community and Preeti was Brahmin. Later, they were successful in convincing the respective families and got married. Kartik has 4 years old baby boy from Preeti. Marriage was going smooth initially later Preeti got occupied too much with family and kid that she ignored him. After seeing her careless attitude towards him, he also made himself busy in his career. We also got to know that he was an emotionally very week, he was not getting the emotional support which he wanted from his life partner. 2 years back during chatting he felt that connection with Deepti so they decided to get into a relationship. He wanted someone with whom he could emotionally connect and he found her.
In Individual Counselling Sessions with Deepti we came to know that she came from the traditional and conservative family she had born and brought up in Delhi but most of her upbringing was in the hostel. She had an arranged marriage with Manish and has 7 years old baby girl out of wedlock but with time their physical relationship fades away. She had many affairs on and off due to lack of physical intimacy with husband. We also got to know that she was being blackmailed by one of her exes.
In further Counselling Sessions with her, we got to know that presently that she was being blackmailed by one of her ex who was her gym trainer. He was her ex before Kartik and was forcing her to be back in a relationship. Kartik was not aware of all this. In further sessions, we met this ex of her and got her out of the situation. Later started dealing with Kartik’s and her issues.
During the Couple Counselling Sessions, we made them realised that Kartik’s emotional needs and Deepti’s physical needs attracted them towards each other. Further, they mutually decided to get separate and now living their lives happily with their partners.
We also gave them tips on how they can make their respective marriages work better. Like we told Deepti that Manish may be physically distant due to the emotional disconnect so we told her to talk to him and ask his set of expectations from you and spend some quality time with him. We also suggested Kartik discuss his problems with Preeti because he avoids confrontation. We made them realised that Deepti and Kartik have compatibility issues and due to the pre-conditioning of past it would be very difficult to adjust with each other as Kartik is from a conservative family and Deepti is from liberal mindset. They ended up in their relationship on a happy note.
Dr Nisha Khanna as a Relationship Counsellor/Marriage Counsellor proffers online, telephonically and face to face Counselling Services. If you are living in Delhi, India or any other part of the World, you can approach us through any of these mediums. For further details visit Bye Tense, or call us at +91-9312730331