Losing spark is a constant complaint from couples who have been together for a long time. Many couples feel that the enthusiasm with which they started their relationship soon tends to fade away. It is generally believed that the honeymoon phase tends to lose its charm and the spark that once used to brighten the relationship seems to be missing. One of the reasons why this occurs is mainly due to the fact how they have to come back to normal life. Other reason could be the level of motivation, as the couple spends more time together; the effort that they invested earlier also reduces significantly. It is seen that during the first 6 months of the relationship, the partner tends to be at their best behaviour.
- Trust
Honestly, with time the faith in the relationship goes for a toss, the trust level depreciates and people start to take each other for granted. They stop sharing about their daily routine and with time the connection that brings them closer get weaker. It is essential that you share every important detail with each other. Ensure that your partner still continues to be your go-to person.
- Space
Being a couple doesn’t mean that you can’t have your own space and can’t do things on your own. Space can actually add the spark and brighten your relationship for the best. When a partner takes his time to do things ranging from watching television alone or going for a trip with friends, it rejuvenates the person as a whole. Healthy separateness and healthy closeness can surely make your relationship stronger and add value.
- Going for Downhill
As the years pass by the couple feels that they have lost interest and feels that the relationship is actually going downhill. The disagreement and fights are also on the increasing end. It is essential on the part of the couple to maintain that passion and intensity. This problem basically occurs because in the starting we put our new relationship at the top of our priority and with time it becomes part of our life. We nurture it. We make time and efforts for the same but with time we start to take each other for granted.
- Loss of Physical Attraction
In the starting of the relationship we view our partners as independent and attractive individuals they are, we can keep a fresh level of excitement and affection for them. But with time the person, loses interest in taking care of their looks and start to overlook their goals that once were a priority.
Many times when we form a bond together we tend to see the other person as an extension of ourselves and we lose the chemistry tied the couple to another. When we view our partners as the independent and smart individuals they are, we can keep a fresh level of excitement and affection for them.
- Quality Time
Every relationship requires the couple to spend time together. The amount of time, spent together tends to reduce as the relationship gets old. 2-hour late night talk gets reduced to an hour then 30 minutes. Partners make various excuses about their time and prefer to spend alone as compared to doing things together. Finding ways to spend time together such as going for dinner or movie together can surely add to the relationship.
- Lack of Sexual Intimacy
Due to a hectic work schedule or the lifestyle, the individual feels exhausted by the end of the day. Especially, in metro cities travelling takes a long time so people feel a lack of energy or feel drained and tend to avoid such intimate interactions. Thus, this factor can surely let your relationship lose its charm. It becomes important to find ways to rekindle the lost spark.
- Communication
Losing spark tends to occur when the communication goes for a toss. This could be either due to lifestyle or stress. Few of the basic reasons is that some people do not have the habit of sharing and some people don’t listen and while some tend to assume things. In many relationships partners, many times find it difficult to express themselves whiles some are overly assertive. It is essential to listen to each other thoughts and feelings. People these days tend to listen in order to provide an answer rather than to understand. Being empathic can surely, add some spark to marriage.
- Monotonous Routine
A couple, we tend to know each other’s schedule at the tip of our hands. Having surprise elements can surely help your relationship to get stronger. Even the most basic things such as getting a flower or watching each other’s favourite movie can bring the couple closer. Many times the couple also tends to have merged identity as a result the excitement level reduces. Ensuring individual attributes can surely be helpful.
It is essential to ensure that the spark doesn’t fade away from your relationship. It is usually advisable to seek help from a professional marriage counsellor or relationship expert as and when the problem arises rather than sweeping the problems under the carpet.
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