Marriage Counselling:

Every marriage has specific issues or conflicts; no marriage exists without a problem. It may be standard for you to have fundamental issues in your marriage, but it could lead to serious trouble when not dealt with. In a marriage/relationship, several stressors could require you to seek professional help, especially :

Partner Taking You for Granted: Partner does not neglect your needs and disregards your feelings. The partner is not appreciating or showing gratitude towards you. Partner is more critical towards you.

Emotional Blackmailing: Partner manipulates you for their self-interest and creates a constant threat, guilt and fear to control and follow what they say.

Jealousy: The partner is jealous of you because of betrayal, unrealistic expectations, abandonment issues, personal insecurities and low self-esteem.

Abusive: A person uses verbal insults, mean language and nasty behaviour. Bullying, Gaslighting, Attacking, Accusation, Threatening, and Name-calling can be modes of abuse.

Disrespectful: Partner Gets angry with you quickly and frequently puts down control. A person belittles you, ignores boundaries, dismisses your accomplishments, and makes decisions without consulting you.

Infidelity: The person is involved in an extra-marital affair and is the common cause of break up. Adultery refers to violating the relationship norm by interacting with 3rd person outside of the relationship.

Inequality: Partner has different sets of rules for you and themselves. They dominate, make all the decisions, and shut down when you voice your opinion.

Controlling: The partner criticizes and asks you to stop socializing. A person is very possessive and isolates you from others. They are over-protective, micromanaging and invading your privacy.

Feeling Scared: A person scares you by driving fast, drinking too much or doing risky things. They have threatened to hurt you even if they are sorry afterwards.

Suicidal: Makes threats to commit suicide if you don’t obey or disagree. A person must be suffering from mental health issues and may have a history of depression, substance abuse and other illnesses.

Sexual Abuse: Forces you to indulge in indecent sexual behaviour and puts you down when you refuse. They may manipulate, influence or control you to have sex.

Financial Abuse: They control your access to money and scrutinize your spending. They hide funds from you and have racked up credit card debts in your name.

Indiferent: You suffer from loneliness in a relationship and feel less like a team. Frequent fights make you distant from each other. Despite of being living together, you grow apart.

Transition: The couple is going through a significant transition phase, like having a kid, changing city or country, leaving a job or changing profession, and having an empty nest.

Lack of Love: You do not feel loved enough. You are not enjoying little intimate moments and not enjoying relationships as usual.

Different Parenting Style: You need to be on the same page about parenting despite wanting the best for the child. A family-of-origin trend is influencing a partner’s decision-making.

Frequent Quarrels: You try communicating with each other but end up arguing over petty issues. You either won’t talk to each other for days or months and ignore each other’s existence.

Contempt: It includes sarcasm, mockery, facial expressions and making the other person feel inferior. Partner may intentionally be hurting you.

Stonewalling: Unresponsive, Acting busy, walking away and feeling overwhelmed and physically flooded.

Co-dependency: You have no personal identity, interests, or values outside the relationship. Your desires and needs are unimportant, and you neglect yourself to please your partner.

Suspicious: Doubting, suspecting, spying, questioning, and monitoring the partner’s behaviour due to past traumatic relationships or experiences.

Communication Gap: You cannot share your true feelings with your partner. You feel judgemental, vulnerable, and misunderstood.

Lack of Physical Intimacy: When a lack of physical relationship or your marriage doesn’t have consummation, the time is to visit a marriage counsellor.

Sake of Kids: Marriage counselling is required when a couple feels they are in the marriage just for the kids’ sake.

Antagonistic: When you see your partner as a villain in the marriage? You resent them, and whatever they do seems wrong to you.

In-Laws Interference: It is better to approach a marriage counsellor when in-law issues and cultural differences are present.

Addiction: A person has an addiction to drugs, alcohol, gambling, pornography, mobile, internet, Etc. It’s hard for a person with a substance use disorder to accept that.

Mental Health Concerns: Living with someone having mental health issues can be challenging for a relationship. That profoundly impacts communication and intimate relationships.

Suicidal: Engaging in self-harm and thoughts of harming others is a sign that a person needs professional help.

Crossroad: When you feel stuck, and the thought of divorce crosses your mind, it is time to meet a professional.

Ideally, both partners must come for marriage counselling together. Pointing fingers at each other does not help. Relationship counsellors/marriage counsellors help couples develop mutually caring, respectful, and lasting relationships. However, suppose you are ready to seek help, but your partner is not. In that case, it is still worth contacting a relationship expert or marriage counsellor alone and comprehending the situation from a different or neutral perspective. 

As a relationship/marriage counsellor, Dr Nisha Khanna has provided online, telephone, and face-to-face counselling services for the last two decades. If you live in Delhi, India or any other part of the World, you can approach us through any of these mediums. For further details, visit Bye Tense or call us at +91-9818211474