Dr Nisha Khanna is an experienced couple counsellor with vast experience in this field. Through this article, Dr Khanna shares how we can best help couples rebuild their relationships after infidelity through Couple Counselling. 

Brief Background: It is a classic case of infidelity where Couple counselling rebuilds the relationship of a middle-aged woman who was facing massive turmoil in her marriage because of her multiple histories of affairs. Kiara (aged 43) is a homemaker and married to Kiran (45), who is Vice President of a MNC; they have a son (aged 17).

Initial Couple Counselling Phase: During a Couple of Counselling sessions, we learned that she is an attractive woman who prioritizes her beauty and fantasy life rather than her family. As she claimed, the couple faced a significant relationship issue due to Kiran’s lack of interest and attention to the family. His professional life was demanding, making him contribute minimum time to his wife. Over time, boredom grew between them, which led her to find love and happiness from men outside. Her craze for men increased so much that she dated 6-7 men and had a physical relationship with more than 2! Kiran noted drastic changes in her behaviour; she was addicted to her phone and constantly smirking. She would be out of the house late at night and least attentive to the family affairs. One day, their son saw some awful messages exchanged between her mother and another man on social media and shared the same with his father. Kiran caught her red-handed when she planned to see one of her boyfriends and demanded an explanation. After this, they sought professional help to identify the real cause for such obnoxious behaviour and how they could save the relationship.

Initial Individual Counselling Phase: During the Individual Counselling session, Kaira broke down in front of a marriage or couple counsellor and confessed to an abusive childhood and shared about a molestation incident at a young age. She also expressed that her parents, especially her mother, were rigorous and not lovable towards her. She grew up in a harsh environment throughout. By the time she reached puberty, she had multiple sexual affairs, and throughout her college time, she was in bad company, making it even worse for her to return to everyday life. When we questioned her about multiple affairs, Kiara stated that she felt unnoticed and did not feel loved and given utmost importance. Thus, she got attracted to other people, especially men who frequently showed affection, love & attraction towards her.

Final Couple Counselling: In further Couple counselling sessions, Dr Khanna explained the root cause of her behaviour to the couple and made her realize the significance of self-worth. We advised Kiran about the importance of work-life balance and quality time spent together. We made him understand that all that his wife needed was love. 

Kiara learned tips on channelling her energy and using her skills to do something productive and what she loves. After three months of Couple Counselling, she attained happiness with her family and discovered a new passion for herself. Therefore, this case study emphasizes that not every instance of infidelity is purposeful. Most patients have solid emotional issues behind such behaviour, and timely diagnosis can rebuild a relationship.

As a Couple Counsellor/Marriage Counsellor, Dr Nisha Khanna proffers online, telephonic, and face-to-face counselling services. Suppose you are looking for therapy related to marriage or relationship issues in Delhi, India or any other part of the World. In that case, you can approach her couple counselling services through any of these mediums. For details, visit Bye Tense or call us at +91-9818211474